Is your woman a cunnilingus virgin? Lucky you, it’s your sexual duty to initiate her in the erotic joys of cunnilingus!

This may come as a surprise to you but not all women come with full knowledge and acceptance of cunnilingus or ‘being eaten out’. From a woman’s point of view, oral sex is often a matter of trust, i.e., opening up her most ‘scared place’ for ‘close scrutiny’ to you. In fact, believe it or not, there are plenty of women out there who are more open to sexual intercourse than cunnilingus. They claim that the latter is a more ‘private affair’. I know, go figure.

If your partner is a cunnilingus virgin, don’t lose hope end assume she’s deadest against it. For all you know, she’s simply waiting for the right guy to show her the high sexual pleasure that cunnilingus brings.

How to Persuade Your Partner to Engage in Cunnilingus

Discuss, not dictate.

The wrong approach to take is to STATE that she ‘needs’ to experience cunnilingus. For one, you probably don’t even know why she’s not into being muff dived yet so don’t assume anything. Instead, talk to her about it. Ask if she has any negative impressions or bad experiences regarding cunnilingus so that you’re better able to address whatever it is that’s eating her up (pun intended).

Also, showing that you’re willing to discuss and understand her shows your caring side, which in turn makes her trust you more, which in turn makes her more open to the thought of you going down on her.

Try, not force.

As a cunnilingus virgin, it’s understandable that she may be a bit squeamish about the whole affair the first time. Don’t expect compete and wild abandon here. And don’t force her to feel great about it either by ramming your tongue deeper into her or propelling it like helicopter blades. You might hurt her, making her think cunnilingus is not pleasurable at all!

Also, don’t be offended by immediate reaction she has. For example, here’s a story from one of my clients, let’s just call him Jack.

So Jack was eating his lady out. Since she was new to cunnilingus, her emotions about all the new sexual feelings where everywhere. Her physical response to this was to bring her thighs tightly together… that’s right, squeezing Jack’s head between her legs! Anyway, Jack understood this so he GENTLY pried her legs apart and licked gentler to make her relax.

Can you imagine if, feeling a bit of pain, Jack drastically pulled his head away? That would rudely abruptly her sexual pleasure and might even make her think he doesn’t like eating her out after all.

Explore, not just apply.

Although she may be a cunnilingus virgin, it doesn’t mean that techniques that worked for your previous partners will work on her. For one, some women, like it rough, others don’t. Some women like being finger fucked while being licked, others don’t. And so on.

So for her first time, just be gentle and go with the flow. Be attuned with her body and its reactions instead of trying to apply – what you think – is a great cunnilingus formula.

Encourage trust, not misgiving.

Again, since this is her first time with cunnilingus, it’s important to start gently so that you earn her trust. If you go down there like Rambo, and chances are she’s not ready for that at all, she will instinctively assume that she’ll experience some sort of pain or discomfort. As a result, she will not be completely open to the whole cunnilingus thing anymore.

Also, at the very least, she may not feel much sexual pleasure at all, enabling her to incorrectly assume that cunnilingus is no big deal.

Make it all about HER pleasure.

Try not to be the great Casanova as you go down on her or revel in the fact that you’re her sexual teacher, and she your helpless sex student who wants nothing more than to accept your moves.

Sometimes, men can get so full in their heads about how they’re such great lovers that the focus is all wrong. So this time, make it all about her. Her body, her reactions, her sexual pleasure. If she achieves an orgasm during cunnilingus, GREAT but it’s not your goal.

Your goal is to simply let her know how sexually enriching cunnilingus is and that it’s another way you can enrich your relationship – sexually and otherwise. Good luck!

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A woman masturbating in front of her partner is a predominantly male fantasy. Women tend to enjoy interacting with their partners when they are together and then play with herself alone.

For all possible reasons, be it mere curiosity, adolescent associations, voyeuristic tendencies, or something else altogether, this fantasy to watch a woman masturbate has strong appeal to men of all ages. So why keep it a fantasy?

Ways to Persuade Her to Engage in ‘Self-Love’ Right Before Your Eyes

First and the most important factor that will eventually lead towards fulfilling your fantasy is trust. Your partner has to trust you. If she trusts you, it’s amazing how easy it can be to accomplish this goal.

It may be as simple as asking her to do it. But more often than not, you need to build on the trust between you first, and this may take some time. Some women are so dependent on their men, they would almost instantly do anything to please him. Other women will never do a single thing that makes them uncomfortable, no matter how much they love their partners. Therefore, one of the goals here would be to make your woman feel comfortable enough to succumb to playing out this fantasy of yours.

To convince her to do it for the first time is a problem, because how do you tell her what you want in a proper and non-demeaning way? An honest relationship allows you to approach your partner with all your needs and desires, so simply explaining to her this fantasy you harbor would be a good start. If she is reluctant, offer to do it first.

Ask your partner to sit down, fully clothed and have her watch you masturbate. Do not allow her to interact, just allow her to watch.

Perhaps it would help if you offer her to role-play. The story would go something like this: she is alone at home, in bed, reading. You are a burglar who got surprised by her early return and who is hiding in the closet. She can then pretend that nobody is home and have a go at herself, while you are in the closet ogling your eyes out.

Also, be careful of being misunderstood by your request to watch her masturbate. Think of it from her point of view: she is present, ready and willing to have sex with you… and you prefer to just watch and not engage with her?

Unless you really explain why you want to do it this way, she’ll figure you’re a pervert. You, on the other hand, will have a hard time staying put. At some point the pressure in your pants will go berserk, so calculate that occurrence when you propose to do a purely voyeuristic encounter.

Why Masturbation is Good for Your Relationship

Why is it important to go through with such a fantasy? This is because it is healthy for your relationship to live out all your sexual fantasies together with your partner.

If you don’t talk to your partner about your sexual fantasies and you leave them simmering in the back of your head, some day you will get a feeling as if you are missing out on something. Such desires can get very strong and ultimately ruin a good relationship.

The solution is to speak out about it. Women are smart, but they cannot read minds, again unless you are married to her for a decade or so. Actually, this advice to speak out about your sexual fantasies goes both ways. You need to ask her about her fantasies and reciprocate by fulfilling her desires too.

A very young relationship, where you have been together with a woman for a couple of days, or maybe weeks, is frail and asking your girlfriend to perform for you is a risk. However, if you are honest and able to properly define your reasons for asking such a thing, she may do it. And even if she doesn’t this should be fine with you.

There is plenty of time to get back to that idea later. An icebreaker may be to propose to masturbate simultaneously, watching each other. This may also be a solution in case she is reluctant to have real sex.

On the other hand, a mature relationship, perhaps a yearlong marriage, does very little to promote variety and sex is mostly a matter of catching a mutually convenient and physically possible moment to get intimate.

To waste that moment on a fantasy may seem ludicrous to you, but believe me that a change in the routine may be a very welcome surprise to your love life. It is always good to be creative and imaginative with your partner, so that she feels wanted, desirable, sexy and beautiful. After years of marriage, sometimes that validation is more important to a woman then having sex. So really, asking her to masturbate in front of you may be something she’s secretly delighted with!

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One of the ways a woman gives herself a relaxing treat is by soaking in a long, hot bath so you can take this opportunity to really give her a treat by preparing a bath for her. Of course, with other ‘extra treats’ as only you can provide.

How to Prepare a ‘Proper’ Bath for Her

No guys, a bath is not just filling the tub with hot water and pouring some bubble bath solution in it. If you’re going to do this, do it good and create the right ambiance for her.

First, close the windows and blinds and submerge the whole bathroom in darkness. Next, light some candles. They can be scented or not depending on what you use for the… scented oil you want to place on the burner or oil diffuser.

So for example, if you’re using vanilla oil on the oil diffuser, don’t use strawberry-scented candles as the heady, super sweet smells will most likely give you both a headache. Aim for one scent or like what’s mentioned above, use non-scented candles if you’re going to burn scented oils.

Also, don’t scrimp on the candles ok? The more, the merrier!

Next, put on some soothing music and make sure it’s not too loud or too soft. To test this, turn the music on and go into the bathroom and close the door a bit. Check if the music level is just right.

Next, make sure everything you need is within reach. It’s not good if you break the sexual massage all the time by running out of the bathroom! Plus, it’s not good for the overall warm temperature in the bathroom. Just put everything you need on a tray and set this on the toilet or on a small chair.

Don’t forget a few edible treats. A glass of wine or champagne and a platter of crackers and cheese are sexy and will make you both last long during the sexual massage.

Sexual Massage Moves in the Bath

For starters, let her soak in the bath for about 5 to 10 minutes just to loosen her tight muscles and wracked nerves. Don’t join her in the bath just yet.

Start sexually massaging her while you’re still outside the tub. Sit on the edge or pull up a chair and use a wooden massage roller and move this along her body.

You can also position yourself at the top edge of the tub so you can massage her head. Slip your hands under her shoulders and then draw them up and out. A variation of this step is to pull your hands along the underside of the head, with your fingers against the back of the neck.

Feel free to shampoo her hair too. The pressure of your hands on her scalp in combination with the soft suds of the shampoo will feel great. Besides, this is the beauty of a sexual massage in the bathroom, no cares for the all the water and soap that might spill on the floor.

Now, without breaking your massage strokes, climb into the bathtub and join her. Sit behind her with her back to yours (sort of like spoon to spoon). Start massaging her shoulders and work your way to her lower back. And now comes the best part… massaging her front.

Start by reaching over and cupping her breasts (gently!). You can use the soap suds or better yet, put more soap gel on your hands and start massaging her breasts as if you were trying to create a lot of lather!

Tease her by massaging her breasts, moving to her shoulders, going back to her breasts, going down and rubbing her stomach, back to hear breasts again. Each time, be a bit more daring and go lower and lower her front. For instance, just massage or ‘clean’ her belly button with your finger and then go back to her breasts before going down to her pubic area.

Here’s a naughty tip for you: unless your woman has gone Brazilian (i.e., has had all her pubic hair shaved off) you can try ‘shampooing’ her hair down there! Simply apply the same strokes you would as if you were washing her hair.

As a climax to this hot tub sexual massage, you may go ahead and insert your finger in her ‘sweet spot’. Remember, this should be part of the sexual massage and should not be seen as the sexual act itself so be gentle while you finger her. The objective is not to make her come but to simply ‘connect’ with that special place as well. Good luck!

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If it is politically correct to say diamonds are a woman’s best friend, would it be right to say that aphrodisiacs are a man’s best friend?

One of the biggest challenges for guys when it comes to sex is how to ensure that his woman is also in the mood for it. What usually happens is this: you want sex and she, for some reason, doesn’t. However, instead of getting sexually frustrated - or worse, try to force her! - why not enlist the help of a few aphrodisiacs?

No need to go exotic and spend a gargantuan amount of money. Try these ‘natural’ aphrodisiacs to set her in the right mood without going through too much hassle.

Balut

Balut, the popular delicacy of most Filipinos, is actually a fertilized duck that has a developed embryo inside. The egg is boiled and is enjoyed with a pinch of salt and a couple of drops of vinegar. And because a lot of men testify to its astonishing effects, plus its affordability compared to other forms of aphrodisiacs, the balut has become a popular street food in Asian countries. However, thanks to the wonders of exports, you can probably find balut in any Asian grocery store near you.

If you don’t want to try this now, then don’t forget about it when you and your woman are on a trip in Asia. It’s worth a try!

Ginseng

Ginseng is a genus of 11 species of perennial plants with fleshy roots. They grow in China, Asia, Korea and Siberia. Normally, ginseng is used as nourishing stimulants and as treatment of Type II Diabetes. It’s also widely used in vitamins and food supplements for men. But since its discovery, only lately has its most significant use been adopted. That is, it’s undoubted role in men’s sexual prowess. In fact, according to a 2002 study, both Asian and American forms of ginseng markedly increased libido levels of animals, thus improving their sexual performance.

If your woman drinks a lot of tea already, then switching to one that is ginger-flavored is not a bad idea. A few dishes cooked with a lot of ginger is also nice. Just don’t serve a plateful of raw ginger! I assure you, any ‘hotness’ from this will not lead to sex!

Honey

Honey is a sweet viscous liquid that can actually bring sex performance to higher levels and make your “honey” beg you for more. Coming from the nectar of flowers, honey is a mixture mainly of sugars and other compounds like fructose and glucose. The nitric oxide in it is also known to open up blood vessels and stimulate erection. This may sound like an aphrodisiac for you rather than for her… but an obviously erect penis works wonders for us women as well!

Besides, honey can be ‘consumed’ in many ways right? So why not spread a bit of honey on your ‘honey’? Lick away! Lick away! Lick away!

Oats

Who says oats are only for dieters? Oats work as well in letting out the real man in you. Among the sources of aphrodisiacs, this is the most affordable one. In recent studies, the power of oats has been seen to significantly race the level of testosterone in men. Think it’s impossible? Try it!

Oysters

La Trelle Spencer in White Chicks said that oysters are an aphrodisiac. And yes it’s true! It’s been found that oysters are rich in certain amino acids that notably increase the levels of sex hormones. You may also want to add some spice to your oysters as spice can lead to increased heart rate and sometimes even sweating. These are responses similar to the ones you feel when you’re ‘getting it on’. So once you smell your honey cooking up some grilled oysters, you know what’s going to happen next!

Peanut Butter

Peanut butter lovers certainly will love to read this. This lovely snack can actually increase the desire for sex! It is rich in Vitamin B1 and Vitamin E, which is also called the “sexuality vitamin”.

And here’s a naughty tip you can try! Make sure your woman is sitting somewhere, say on the sofa, dinner chair, whatever! Then go ala Elvis and get a banana. Half-peel this and smear the top with peanut butter. No, position the half-peeled banana directly in front of your penis (and facing her face!). Approach your woman and, WITHOUT LAUGHING, ask her to taste your banana. If she doesn’t get horny from this, I don’t know what will!

Indeed, nature has everything to offer. What more could you ask for? Delicious aphrodisiac foods that are very affordable. All you have to do is learn these tricks and remember that hot sex doesn’t depend on how much aphrodisiac you eat but in the love that you put in it.

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Hi all!

It´s finally 2008, I´m so excited about 2008.

Today I´ll give you some tips to spend a VERY sensual evening with your partner.

It´s called “lights… camera… action!”

Because the idea is to take advantage of the technology we have today (such as digital cameras) to enjoy some sexy moments together.

So let´s get started!

1. Grab your video camera and make your own porno movie together. I recommend creating a title for the movie and a story. Don´t just have sex in front of a camera! Create a story first, and then act it…

2. Get a few costumes to make your porno movie even more sensual. For example, try roles like: CEO of a company, secretary, soldier, prostitute, etc.

3. Another great technique is to videotape yourselves having sex. Just have sex as usual. And then watch the movie together to see what you both like and what you´re doing wrong. (It will help both of you improve your sex skills!)

4. Finally I recommend preparing a romantic dinner together, grab a bottle of red wine, a few candles and… enjoy your sensual movies together!

Enjoy!