Just like many things surrounding sex and its pleasures, masturbation or self-love has gone on to have bad name. Masturbation is often seen as a taboo and admitting to it seems to indicate that there’s something wrong with you.

On the contrary, masturbating is common, natural, and most of all, it’s healthy for you!

So why not indulge in some selfless self-love? It can be good for you, and it might just be what your sex life needs right now.

IMPORTANT: Masturbation doesn´t mean doing it on your own! You can enjoy self-pleasure with your woman (it´s a great turn on for both of you).

With that said, let´s get started…

Here’s Why You Should Indulge and Masturbate…

It’s NORMAL to masturbate.

If you stop and think about it, what’s wrong with pleasuring yourself? You’re not cheating on your sex partner (actually you can do it with her, as I explained). So this is not infidelity. Besides, your sex drive may be higher than your sex partner so masturbating is just an easy, natural way to even out the sexual need differences between the two of you.

The only important thing to remember is this: masturbation should not evolve into being the ONLY thing that can bring you to a climax. Meaning, if you can’t have sex with your partner anymore because you’re more interested in self-love, then THAT is a problem in your relationship and you need to address this intimacy issue with your partner. Masturbating will not help there.

However, if masturbation is recreational and is simply just one of those things that enable you to have a joyful sex life, then by all means, go for it!

Masturbation helps get rid of stress.

Today’s hectic lifestyles mean we get stressed often. And sometimes, this stress can be easily alleviated by simply engaging in a healthy dose of masturbation.

If you’re having such a day, here’s what you can do (all these tips can be done on-your-own or with your partner):

Tip #1. Have a long, hot soak in the tub or take a hot shower. When you reach for the shampoo, conditioner, or what not and you feel like pleasuring yourself. Give in. You’ll feel refreshed from the shower and relaxed from the release.

Tip #2. Get an x-rated magazine and lock yourself for a few minutes in a room. You can also take a few minutes and watch some naughty videos.

Tip #3. If you have a healthy imagination, simply go to quiet place and be alone for a while. Close your eyes and let your imagination go from naughty to wild. Reach down and pleasure yourself for release.

Masturbation improves your health.

Here’s one thing that you should not forget the next time you feel that masturbation is ‘sinful’ – self-love is good for your health!

• It gets rid of headaches and helps improve your mood. Studies show that self-love results in the release of mood elevating hormones that can ban away headaches and basically lift your spirits so you end up feeling happier.

• It gets rid of sexual tension and helps with emotional development. We all don’t have the same desires when it comes to sex. For instance, If you want to try a certain sex position and your partner absolutely does not want to, this can cause sexual tension physically. Masturbation can at least give you the release you physically need.

Self-love is also good for emotional development because by engaging in healthy masturbation you get a chance to learn more about yourself; what really turns you on and what doesn’t. This information can then be used by you or relayed to your sex partner so that you can prevent instances of premature ejaculation.

• Its good for your prostate. If you don’t release prostate fluid, it’s going to stay there and, simply put, ‘block your pipe’. Studies show that prostate fluid actually has 3-methylcholanthrene, the same carcinogen that one finds in cigarette smoke. As such, you’re really doing yourself a world of good by ejecting seminal fluids as often as you can. At the very least, keeping seminal fluid can lead to urinary and ejaculatory pain.

It can be quite hard to embrace masturbation as a good thing especially if it’s always been deemed a shameful and sinful habit for centuries. However, as in most things, ignorance can lead to a lot of problems and stress in your daily life and sex life.

Stop trying to view masturbation as a bad thing and start viewing it as a simple, natural and healthy inclination… that just so happens to be sexual in nature.

So please… promise me that you will enjoy a moment of self-love on your own or with your partner TODAY!

Enjoy honey…

Sarah

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Performance anxiety is commonly misinterpreted as “stage fright”, but there is a reason for it. It has been stated, that “the whole world is a stage” and we are willing or unwilling participants in it. Performing artists like musicians, singers, actors and speakers have faced this enemy during their careers and braved them one way or another.

But this enemy is very common in human relationships too and particularly ferocious when it comes to sex. Men face this enemy every time they are about to have sex and there is one reason which makes this anxiety almost unbearable: will I last long enough to satisfy my partner?

How to Make Sure You Don’t Orgasm Before She Does

1. Prolong the foreplay.

Instead of plowing away once the sex really gets going, take your time to caress your partner and explore her body with your other extremities. While the male organ seems to be the only arousal point on a man’s body, women have these sensitive areas all over the place.

Her reaction to your probing will give you a fairly good idea where they are. While she approaches ecstasy with your every successful exploration, you not only learn your partner’s secret areas, but also preserve your own stamina for the final battle.

2. Encourage her to speak up and tell you what turns her on.

Conversation is a very important part of the whole sexual experience. This time though, you want to encourage her to tell you what REALLY turns her on. Clever sexual innuendos during pre-sex time and gentle inquiries during sex not only give you vital information, but stimulate your partner’s fantasy, which makes her hornier, which makes her reach her orgasm faster! Just before you reach your own…

3. Oral sex

Spicing things up by pleasuring or “heating up” your partner with oral stimulation gives you time to breath. While orally satisfying a woman is requiring a keen ear to your partner’s needs and leads, it may be the last resort for your premature curtain call. It is not a solution to “take a break” during sex. While it may help you, you probably will have to start with your partner from square one. Switching to oral sex gives you the needed break without interrupting your partner’s pleasure cruise.

4. Know your own body.

Japanese Geisha’s are known to be able to bring a man to ecstasy without having him prematurely end the fun. If they can do that, you can too IF you know your own body.

Knowing your body’s primary arousal points can help you last longer if you avoid… for now. Another trick is to squeeze the base of your shaft right before the Big Ben strikes ten on the top and the bottom side. If you do it right, it stops you cold.

A good physical condition is also helpful in enduring the physical task of keeping it up longer; do not underestimate your muscles’ participation in your endurance quest. Ask your partner to assist you in this self-discovery and sex will never get boring.

5. An honest and open relationship.

Tell your partner about your anxiety and let her know that you want to last longer to give her more pleasure. While this is most of the time not possible when you are in bed for the first time with a new partner, once you are an item and sex gets to be a somewhat regular pastime, honesty is the way to go.

6. If it all fails, do it again!

Leonardo Da Vinci’s first painting was not the Mona Lisa and even when he was painting the masterpiece he did not get it right the first time. Multiple layers have been discovered by x-ray technology procedures, documenting that even the Master himself needed several tries to get it right.

By exploring your own limits and practicing as often as you both feel like will lead to more confidence, more pleasure, more mutual acceptance and trust, and ultimately more endurance and better sex for both of you.

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Why is it that watching porn is such a guilty pleasure? You like watching it and it excites you but at the same time you have this nagging feeling that you’re doing something wrong. Well, change your mindset because watching porn can actually be good for you and your relationship with your partner!

Here’s Why Porn is So Good for You…

Sex Therapy. We have many hang ups when it comes to sex and sometimes, you may want to try something new and exciting that you just can’t even mention to your lover for fear of being ridiculed and rejected. By watching porn, you simply get rid of this naughty thought out of your system. True, it may not be the same as performing the sex position or sex idea yourself, but at least you get to ‘live it’ in a different way. As a result, it’s no longer a constantly nagging thought in your head.

Sex Education. Despite what you may want to believe, you’re probably not the hot stud you think of yourself between the sheets. You often hear it said that men do not know how to pleasure women, right? Well then, grab a couple of porn videos and see for yourself just how these hot studs pleasure their women in front of the camera… for hours! I guarantee, after just watching a couple of porn videos, you’ll walk away with tips to pleasure her like never before. You bet you’ll score a lot of sex points with that!

Sex Drive Overload. Is your relationship reaching a certain sexual plateau? This is normal. The trick, however, is not to let this plateau stretch for ages because if you do, you’ll wake up one fine day and wonder why you and your partner hardly ever have sex anymore. A healthy, sexual relationship is a work in progress. Do your share in keeping the sex alive by constantly finding hot, new, sexy ways to make love. And one sure-fire way of achieving this is to… yes, watch porn!

Go Ahead… Watch Porn Tonight!

Step 1. If you want to watch porn with your partner tonight, keep in mind that the worse thing you can do is spring a surprise on her! What you should do is sort of set the stage so your sex partner is more willing to watch porn with you. How? First, start with foreplay. You can do this days in advance or just at the start of the day when you plan to watch porn together. Simply do things that increase the sexual tension between you like touching her ‘inappropriately’ or sending a dirty joke or dirty short story to her mobile phone or email.

Step 2. Rent a porn video. You can watch porn online or you may even have a subscription to a porn channel but these are often just snippets of porn. If you rent a porn video, then this may revolve around a ‘story’ and women love that! Because it’s presented as a ‘love story’, your lover will be less against watching the actual porn stuff.

Also, be sure to pick a porn video that’s not too wild for her. For instance, if you know she’s dead set against certain sex positions or bondage, this is NOT the time to try and persuade her to trying it. Remember, small steps…

Step 3. Before you watch the porn video together, make sure other elements at home are set up right as well. For instance, dim the lights, light some candles. If you have kids, make sure they’re spending the night with their grandparents. In short, make sure that there’s nothing that will hinder you guys watching porn tonight.

Step 4. Watching porn obviously makes the watchers horny and don’t be shy in communicating that that’s exactly what you’re feeling while she’s beside you. Just be subtle. No need to grab her; just make small innuendos like rubbing your front or trying to graze her breast. Trust me, she’ll get the idea.

Step 5. Lastly, be prepared with protection. Nothing can be more annoying than finding yourselves wanting to have sex… and can’t.

Watching porn is not bad. It’s just something that society finds quite hard to grasp. But if it’s working wonders for YOUR sex life, why fight it? Instead, use it! It’s better to have a striving sex life than not to have one at all.

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I had the most terrrrrific night! My honey and I definitely had a blast playing different kinds of lovers’ games, and of course… it made us sooo horny! And so sitting here, I was thinking of sharing what we’ve been up to last night. Ready?

Strip Chocolate

Snakes and Ladders are out! Say hello to strip chocolate instead. Now I really don’t think I have to explain further what it truly means. After all, doesn’t the game sound raunchy enough already? Indeed, it is. Sitting here makes me warm all over again.

But anyway, for the uninitiated, strip chocolate can be one of the most sensual and delicious games you can ever play. Never mind if it messes up every corner of your household. For this game, you need 2 chocolate body frosting jars, dice, a game board, 25 choco cards, and 2 paint brushes. Each of you can take turns rolling the dice, which will end in you choosing either a dare (which can be pretty boring actually), to strip (this is the best part), or paint an artsy design on any part of your partner’s body (the exposed part of course) using the chocolate body frosting. Don’t forget to say “Yummy” after!

Here’s a twist to this game: If you don’t mind being ‘sexy’ with other couples, find a pair that’s into a bit of kinkiness. Basically, choose to paint a chocolate design on someone’s body, but YOU don’t get to lick it off… somebody else has to do it. I guarantee that the sexual tension in the room will be sky high!

Truth or Dare

If strip chocolate wasn’t daring enough for you, try The Truth or Dare Chocoholics game. It’s a dessert game for adults that encourage you to express your innermost sexual desires to your partner. (What else can possibly be a great aphrodisiac than very vivid imagination?)

In this game, a spinning bottle will determine whether the person who has been chosen by it shall go for truth or settle for dare. The entire package also includes chocolate body frosting as well as soft brushes, just in case you’d like to create romantic images all over your woman’s body… and then lick it off of course.

Saucy Dining Experience

If you have played mystery games before, then this wouldn’t come as a great surprise. But Saucy Dining is more than just solving crimes. Actually, it’s totally different. It is a dinner party–themed game, where all of the recipes are made from aphrodisiacs! And apart from simply savoring the sexual desires that the food will bring, there’s another twist to this game. You and your partner really have to play with the food and each other!

Here’s an example, asparagus is a known aphrodisiac right? So… instead of just eating the asparagus off the plate, place one between hear breasts… and then eat it!

Tequila Body Shots

This is, by far, the easiest and simplest aphrodisiac game I can ever think of… yet super sexy! Alcohol isn’t really an aphrodisiac, but you know what they say, when you’re intoxicated, you can possibly do anything!

Plus, with alcohol, blood rushes through your veins so fast that you want to release all of your sexual emotions right away. And because there’s a tendency that you’ll get drunk, we both prefer to do this at the comfort of our own home. After all, all you need is a bottle of tequila, some salt, and some lime.

So here’s what you do: put some salt on your woman’s body, lick the slat off, drown a shot of tequila and follow up with a piece of lime. Easy! The trick of course is to be ‘creative’ with where you put the salt on her body. I personally love it when my man licks salt of my lips, wrist, inner arm, and between my breasts!

Just do this game with a bit of moderation ok? Tequila is also notoriously known as a ‘knockout drink’. That is, you guys can easily get drunk without you realizing it. One minute, you’re up and happy and then bang! you’re throwing up everywhere! And this, my friends, ruins every chance of you getting laid tonight.

So are you having a difficult time having fun in your sex life? Choose any one of these sexy games and their aphrodisiac props, and tell me which one gives you the most laughter, the highest passion pull, and leads to the hottest sex!

Enjoy!

Sarah

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Today, we’re going to talk about the many ways couples can kiss each other during foreplay. It’s funny how we seem to take kissing for granted or how easily we can fall into a ‘routine’ with kissing.

One of my subscribers has written me sometime bask complaining that each time she and her husband kiss, there seems to be a ‘time limit’ and all-too-familiar routine that they follow. It goes like this: gentle kissing, followed by about 5 minutes of torrid kissing, and then intercourse!

She said that although she liked having sex with her husband it was becoming like a well-rehearsed routine… help!

Kissing is an Art

One of the best ways to prolong foreplay is to indulge in the many ways you and your partner can kiss each other. Here are a few tips for you.

The Bent Kiss is the type of kiss that’s meant for ‘deep tongue penetration’. It requires one partner to be taller or be at an elevated height than the other. For couples with differing heights, no problem but for couples of equal heights, try kissing on the stairs or while one of you is sitting on the table or sink. The objective is to have one bending over the other for maximum tongue playing.

The Upper Lip Kiss is when you kiss the upper lip of your partner, making your partner focus on your lower lip. This type of kiss allows for a different type of sensation and oh yes, a little sucking of the lips is allowed too!

The Upside-Down Kiss is literally kissing each other while upside-down. Don’t worry; you don’t need any form of acrobatics here. For example, initiate foreplay while your partner is watching TV. Touch his/her shoulders from behind the couch, give him/her a hug, bend over his/her head and start the kiss!

I just gave you two pointers here. Firstly, let your partner know you’re behind him/her! Think about it. How would you react if there was this big head appearing in your line of vision all of a sudden! Secondly, proceed gently, the ‘hug’ part lets your partner know you’re in a ‘tender, loving place’ and because he/she knows this, the kiss you give will be more welcome.

Also, do time your upside-down kiss well! There’s no point in initiating foreplay during the championship of the Super Bowl. You’re setting yourself up badly and you know it! Men, if you know she’s REALLY into Oprah, now is not the time for you to initiate this either.

Kiss and Lick (a.k.a. tongue bathing) is when you ensure that you kiss and lick your partner in ‘equal portions’. I’ve always said that many of us do not lick enough! So when you feel that your partner wants to immediately move on to lovemaking, delay it by engaging in some licking. Be sure to make the change subtle and to alternate between kissing and licking.

The Awakening Kiss is the kiss you want to do if you want to initiate foreplay in the morning or whenever your partner is sleeping. Personally, I call it the “Sleeping Beauty Kiss” because basically you start kissing your partner gently while he/she is still asleep. Don’t make the kiss too wet or too aggressive. Remember, you want your partner to awaken to ‘gentle, sensual pleasures’ and not to a rough assault.

Chocolate Kisses is by far one of my favorites. It is as simple as it sounds, pop a piece of chocolate in your mouth, melt it a bit and when it’s soft and gooey… go for the kiss! You can do some variations of this depending on what you and your partner love to eat. For example, peanut butter is good for most people as well as candy bars. Just be sure it’s something your partner loves to east as well!

There you go. Add these kiss variations into your foreplay repertoire and your partner will surely be surprised, delighted and excited by all these NEW things that are going on in your relationship.

Happy Kissing!

IMPORTANT: Don’t forget to leave your comments below!

Sarah

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