Why is it that watching porn is such a guilty pleasure? You like watching it and it excites you but at the same time you have this nagging feeling that you’re doing something wrong. Well, change your mindset because watching porn can actually be good for you and your relationship with your partner!

Here’s Why Porn is So Good for You…

Sex Therapy. We have many hang ups when it comes to sex and sometimes, you may want to try something new and exciting that you just can’t even mention to your lover for fear of being ridiculed and rejected. By watching porn, you simply get rid of this naughty thought out of your system. True, it may not be the same as performing the sex position or sex idea yourself, but at least you get to ‘live it’ in a different way. As a result, it’s no longer a constantly nagging thought in your head.

Sex Education. Despite what you may want to believe, you’re probably not the hot stud you think of yourself between the sheets. You often hear it said that men do not know how to pleasure women, right? Well then, grab a couple of porn videos and see for yourself just how these hot studs pleasure their women in front of the camera… for hours! I guarantee, after just watching a couple of porn videos, you’ll walk away with tips to pleasure her like never before. You bet you’ll score a lot of sex points with that!

Sex Drive Overload. Is your relationship reaching a certain sexual plateau? This is normal. The trick, however, is not to let this plateau stretch for ages because if you do, you’ll wake up one fine day and wonder why you and your partner hardly ever have sex anymore. A healthy, sexual relationship is a work in progress. Do your share in keeping the sex alive by constantly finding hot, new, sexy ways to make love. And one sure-fire way of achieving this is to… yes, watch porn!

Go Ahead… Watch Porn Tonight!

Step 1. If you want to watch porn with your partner tonight, keep in mind that the worse thing you can do is spring a surprise on her! What you should do is sort of set the stage so your sex partner is more willing to watch porn with you. How? First, start with foreplay. You can do this days in advance or just at the start of the day when you plan to watch porn together. Simply do things that increase the sexual tension between you like touching her ‘inappropriately’ or sending a dirty joke or dirty short story to her mobile phone or email.

Step 2. Rent a porn video. You can watch porn online or you may even have a subscription to a porn channel but these are often just snippets of porn. If you rent a porn video, then this may revolve around a ‘story’ and women love that! Because it’s presented as a ‘love story’, your lover will be less against watching the actual porn stuff.

Also, be sure to pick a porn video that’s not too wild for her. For instance, if you know she’s dead set against certain sex positions or bondage, this is NOT the time to try and persuade her to trying it. Remember, small steps…

Step 3. Before you watch the porn video together, make sure other elements at home are set up right as well. For instance, dim the lights, light some candles. If you have kids, make sure they’re spending the night with their grandparents. In short, make sure that there’s nothing that will hinder you guys watching porn tonight.

Step 4. Watching porn obviously makes the watchers horny and don’t be shy in communicating that that’s exactly what you’re feeling while she’s beside you. Just be subtle. No need to grab her; just make small innuendos like rubbing your front or trying to graze her breast. Trust me, she’ll get the idea.

Step 5. Lastly, be prepared with protection. Nothing can be more annoying than finding yourselves wanting to have sex… and can’t.

Watching porn is not bad. It’s just something that society finds quite hard to grasp. But if it’s working wonders for YOUR sex life, why fight it? Instead, use it! It’s better to have a striving sex life than not to have one at all.

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If it is politically correct to say diamonds are a woman’s best friend, would it be right to say that aphrodisiacs are a man’s best friend?

One of the biggest challenges for guys when it comes to sex is how to ensure that his woman is also in the mood for it. What usually happens is this: you want sex and she, for some reason, doesn’t. However, instead of getting sexually frustrated - or worse, try to force her! - why not enlist the help of a few aphrodisiacs?

No need to go exotic and spend a gargantuan amount of money. Try these ‘natural’ aphrodisiacs to set her in the right mood without going through too much hassle.

Balut

Balut, the popular delicacy of most Filipinos, is actually a fertilized duck that has a developed embryo inside. The egg is boiled and is enjoyed with a pinch of salt and a couple of drops of vinegar. And because a lot of men testify to its astonishing effects, plus its affordability compared to other forms of aphrodisiacs, the balut has become a popular street food in Asian countries. However, thanks to the wonders of exports, you can probably find balut in any Asian grocery store near you.

If you don’t want to try this now, then don’t forget about it when you and your woman are on a trip in Asia. It’s worth a try!

Ginseng

Ginseng is a genus of 11 species of perennial plants with fleshy roots. They grow in China, Asia, Korea and Siberia. Normally, ginseng is used as nourishing stimulants and as treatment of Type II Diabetes. It’s also widely used in vitamins and food supplements for men. But since its discovery, only lately has its most significant use been adopted. That is, it’s undoubted role in men’s sexual prowess. In fact, according to a 2002 study, both Asian and American forms of ginseng markedly increased libido levels of animals, thus improving their sexual performance.

If your woman drinks a lot of tea already, then switching to one that is ginger-flavored is not a bad idea. A few dishes cooked with a lot of ginger is also nice. Just don’t serve a plateful of raw ginger! I assure you, any ‘hotness’ from this will not lead to sex!

Honey

Honey is a sweet viscous liquid that can actually bring sex performance to higher levels and make your “honey” beg you for more. Coming from the nectar of flowers, honey is a mixture mainly of sugars and other compounds like fructose and glucose. The nitric oxide in it is also known to open up blood vessels and stimulate erection. This may sound like an aphrodisiac for you rather than for her… but an obviously erect penis works wonders for us women as well!

Besides, honey can be ‘consumed’ in many ways right? So why not spread a bit of honey on your ‘honey’? Lick away! Lick away! Lick away!

Oats

Who says oats are only for dieters? Oats work as well in letting out the real man in you. Among the sources of aphrodisiacs, this is the most affordable one. In recent studies, the power of oats has been seen to significantly race the level of testosterone in men. Think it’s impossible? Try it!

Oysters

La Trelle Spencer in White Chicks said that oysters are an aphrodisiac. And yes it’s true! It’s been found that oysters are rich in certain amino acids that notably increase the levels of sex hormones. You may also want to add some spice to your oysters as spice can lead to increased heart rate and sometimes even sweating. These are responses similar to the ones you feel when you’re ‘getting it on’. So once you smell your honey cooking up some grilled oysters, you know what’s going to happen next!

Peanut Butter

Peanut butter lovers certainly will love to read this. This lovely snack can actually increase the desire for sex! It is rich in Vitamin B1 and Vitamin E, which is also called the “sexuality vitamin”.

And here’s a naughty tip you can try! Make sure your woman is sitting somewhere, say on the sofa, dinner chair, whatever! Then go ala Elvis and get a banana. Half-peel this and smear the top with peanut butter. No, position the half-peeled banana directly in front of your penis (and facing her face!). Approach your woman and, WITHOUT LAUGHING, ask her to taste your banana. If she doesn’t get horny from this, I don’t know what will!

Indeed, nature has everything to offer. What more could you ask for? Delicious aphrodisiac foods that are very affordable. All you have to do is learn these tricks and remember that hot sex doesn’t depend on how much aphrodisiac you eat but in the love that you put in it.

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There are many tools a woman can use to increase her libido. There are many natural sex drive killers but if you understand these potential problems there are solutions. Below in this article we highlight problems and ways a woman can overcome these issues and increase her libido.

1. Relationship Issues

If there is any ill feeling towards a partner it has to be addressed. If an issue or conflict is left unresolved it will lead to a dampening of desire as can secrets or if you are emotionally upset for some reason.

When you are carrying negative feelings about a partner, your level of attraction for that person can wane dramatically an even in some severe cases never return. It can be as simple as a lack of appropriate hygiene, or something more complex, such as infidelity; whatever the case issues have to be addressed and dealt with before you can feel sexual again towards your partner.

Communication is the key to a good relationship. If you don’t talk to your partner, resentment will grow with you partner and eventually result in an all out conflict. If talking to one another doesn’t work then maybe it means trying a counsellor or therapist to move things in a positive direction.

If that doesn’t work then maybe it is time to see a sex therapist as there maybe problems that are deep rooted that even you are not aware of. I am afraid to say though if all else fails then it may just mean that a relationship has run its course and it is time to say goodbye. It maybe a sad moment but sex is an important part of your life and a relationship and you must enjoy it.

2. Body Complex

No one is ever one hundred percent satisfied with their own body as I have covered in other articles. It maybe those extra large love-handles or those bingo wings or maybe even an issue with your small breasts.

The truth is that to feel positive about sex then you must be happy with your own body. As I have said we all have imperfections (perceived or real) and it time to accept them and live with them. If you can’t then you may need to take some further action.

3. Getting Older

Age catches up with us all and does take a toll on our bodies. There is a loss of bone mass, susceptibility to illness, painful joints, grey hair, sagging flesh and the list goes on. Menopause and decreased testosterone (yes in women too) production are the reasons for decrease in libido but fear, anxiety and depression from aging can contribute too.

If you are going through the menopause, it is important that you understand the changes taking place in your own body. It may mean seeking out your doctor about treatment for the physical changes that are taking place and affecting the sex drive.

The use of Estrogens in any forms can increase blood flow to the vagina and increase arousal thus leading to increased desire. Hormone therapy that includes low dose androgens has been shown to be particularly effective at increasing low libido. There may even be something as easy as the use of lubricants to get an immediate effect if you are experiencing vaginal dryness.

4. Sexual Abuse

Those people that have been unfortunate to suffer sexual abuse can later then have a difficult time with physical intimacy. It is a natural reaction and it takes time and understanding for both the mind and boy to deal with these painful experiences, but there is little attention paid to our sexuality.

Please if this applies to you know that many people who have suffered sexual assault have gone on to have healthy and full sexual relationships. It takes time, patience, understanding and some counselling. This cannot be rushed and you must take your time and only become intimate when you are ready too! Never ever let anyone pressure you into something you feel uncomfortable about.

5. Medication

It is widely known that the effect of birth control pills (also when combined with oral contraceptives) leads to a lowered libido. The decreased androgen production or lowered testosterone levels can cause women to experience a lower libido and less vaginal lubrication.

There are other medications that also dampen desire such as tranquilisers, high blood pressure pills and mood stabilizer amongst many. It must also be noted that even mediation that isn’t anyway connected to sexual; arousal can have an adverse affect on sexual desire. When talking to your doctor about any new medication and finding that it may alter your libido it might be best to ask if there maybe a viable alternative.

Depression seems to be a part of modern life. If you are feeling down and cannot shake the feeling it may mean you have depression. If you feel this way then it maybe time to see you doctor. Depression will make many people listless, drowsy, sad, angry, upset and very emotional. Depression will have a very noticeable effect on libido. It is known that as many as seventy five percent of people with depression also suffer a lowered sex drive.

The very drugs that are used to treat depression (MAOI’s, SSRI’s and tricyclics) can also lead to sexual dysfunction, such as a delay in orgasm and lead to an adverse affect on the level of sexual desire.

There have been changes in the last few years that have given hope to people in this situation. There are drugs such as Viagra(r) with antidepressants. Then there may be the use of herbal remedies such a Ginkgo Bilboa, which is thought to help with lack of desire related to taking Paxil or other antidepressants. The there may also be Wellbutrin that has been shown to combat reduced sexual desire.

Please, though whatever you decide or look into always consult you doctor before any changing of medication or stopping your medications.

6. Medical Problems

There are many numbers of medical disorders that can lower libido such as a thyroid problem or hormone deficiency (especially in older people). A metabolic disorder; anything that adversely affects you metabolism (including an eating disorder, accident, trauma or illness) will obviously cause a lowered libido; it is also true to note that one in five American women have hypoactive sexual desire disorder (HSDD), more comely know as a low sex drive.

If you have ruled out all other reasons to why you have a low sex drive then consult you doctor. You may have a readily curable medical condition.

Conclusion

There isn’t such a thing as a normal libido we are all different and have different sex drives. If you feel frustrated by lack of sexual appetite, take it easy. . Your personal sense of normality is defined by how you feel about your sexuality and whether or not you’re happy with how you are expressing it.

If you are comfortable about your sexuality then congratulations; if however you feel that you may need a gentle push; then explore the remedies suggested here. There is though no miracle cure some of the suggestions here have worked for other people but may not work for you. It may just take time and patience. It may mean just going solo for a while with a sex toy or eating a piece of chocolate. Hey girls chocolates is an aphrodisiac after all!

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It is natural throughout life for a woman to experience changes in their libido. It can be like a rollercoaster ride. One minute your up and can get enough. The next minute you are down. There are many influences that can affect the libido of a woman. It can be anything from a change in lifestyle to a certain medicine that has been prescribed.

In tackling the issue of libido I have put together a list of the most universal reasons (and solutions) for a waning in a woman’s libido; it maybe possible to correct the circumstances with a few simple lifestyle changes.

A Note of Introduction

Libido/Sex Drive vs. Sexual Arousal

There’s a large difference between sexual desire and physical arousal: Desire (or libido) refers to your interest in sex, while arousal relates to your body’s physical response, such as vaginal lubrication or clitoral erection. There can be a relationship between a woman’s libido and sexual arousal as those women with a greater libido often find it easier to get aroused.

The opposite is also true with those women with a lower libido finding it much harder to get aroused. The whole idea then is to increase the sex drive and thus your body will respond by being aroused much easier.

Below we list nine reasons that may lower sex drive and suggest ways that may help you boost you libido.

1. Situation and Lifestyle

The older we women get the more responsibilities that we have to handle. When we were younger most of us had higher sex drives that can take as huge fall when we get older. The time between work, kids, friendships, hobbies and homemaking doesn’t leave much time for sex. Then when you find you have a little spare time often the last things you feel is sexual or in need of any sexual contact; women often just want to read a good book, watch some TV or catch up on a little sleep. It not that us ladies don’t want to have sex it has just some how become a low priority.

Ladies we must all remember that sex is a very important part of any adult relationship. It may mean you have to be a little practical and schedule sex into the calendar. This may sound a little funny but if that is the only way to make sure that you have a chance for lovemaking then it must be done.

Assign one or two nights a week when you spend quality romantic time with your partner. It time to kick things up a notch: For example take turns bringing something new into the bedroom. such as sex toy, illustrated book, video or technique.

The idea about scheduling tie together is so that you’re making a commitment and also allows you to get a mind set of what is going to happen. It gives you mind and body time to prepare and will help find it helps you when sexual arousal enters the equation as you will be more ready for it then coming in cold.

2. Mindset - Anxiety, Stress and Fear

Sex is the last ting on a woman’s mind when she is stressed, anxious or has some fears. It could be work related, a relationship issue, family or money problems and they can really lower drastically a woman’s libido.
How can any girl feel sexy when she has to worry about mortgage repayments. Fear and anxiety associated with sex itself can also cause problems.

In the modern world there are fears of STD’s or of getting pregnant, they all can affect the libido and lower he chances of having a rewarding sexual experience.

The way to conquer stress, fear and anxiety is to firstly ensure that the body is healthy. It is up to you to look after you body by eating right, drinking plenty of water, taking regular exercise or even practicing relaxation techniques such as yoga or meditation.

Listen girls, it may seem like hard work but if you are not doing it for your health then do it for your sex lives. The next step is to strengthen the mind by doing things you are good for you such as reading, doing a crossword, talking to friends, kids and your partner and writing in a journal. If you have a healthy body and mind you will become much more capable to deal with the problems in the bedroom.

If you’ve tried these methods and still feel that anxiety and fear are detrimental your libido, it may be time to seek qualified help. If you are secure with the thought, attempt to talk to a sex therapist. Otherwise a psychologist, life coach or marriage counsellor as they can help you feel better and enjoy sex more.

3. Routine and Boredom

It is easy to get stuck in a groove and familiarity can be a big libido killer. Many women’s ideal is to be in a monogamous relationship but after 20 years it is perfectly normal to be bored or uninspired by your partner. By this time you have tried most things and have ruled out or forgotten about anything you haven’t tried.

This can also apply to couples who have been dating for less than six months as they too can get into a sexual rut after the first flush of puppy love has gone away. It can end up with you using the missionary position every time you get it on like on a Monday, Wednesday and Saturday night. It is fine but everyone needs a bit of variety and spontaneity in their lives.

It is time now to get back to basics and to those sexual routes. Try to approach sex as a brand new experience and forget about everything that you like and don’t like. Approach you partner and talk about what you want to try in bed. It might be that you just need to introduce something new to the bedroom.

There are many ways to re-invigorate your sex life; buy a sex toy and use with your mate, watch sexy videos and try to recreate the scene, read or look through some illustrated sex guides. There maybe some initial embarrassment or unease with your new experiences together, but if you can keep an open mind you will soon find that your new found experiences lead to much more fun and satisfaction.

In Conclusion

Many women for the reasons given above suffer from lower sex drive. It happens to most women at some point in their lives. It maybe time to truly look at your lifestyle and make some tough decisions. Sex is a very important part of your life and any problems must be addressed.

It is time to analyse your life and make real and sufficient time to address your sexual needs. Then look at your routine and maybe spice things up with new and exciting appoaches agreed to by both you and your partner. It is time you took control of your life back.

Approach sex like it is your very first time and try to capture that old feeling. It is with experimentation that sex can become fresh again. This will make it exciting and thus you will want to have sex again.

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The G-Spot is a highly sensitive area on the front or upper wall of the yoni (Tantric for vagina). G-Spot a modern term, coined by Ladas, Whipple, & Perry in their 1982 book The G-Spot And other Discoveries About Human Sexuality. They named it after Ernst Gräfenberg M.D. who first wrote about this “new” orgasmic trigger in a scientific journal in 1950.

By the way, Gräfenberg didn’t call it a spot and rightly so. It’s an area in different places in different women. And it moves.

In Tantric sex it´s called the G-Spot the Sacred Gate, partly because all of sex is sacred to a Tantrika (a Tantra adept) and partly because it truly is a doorway to profound love, deep emotional intimacy, and sexual ecstasy. The Sacred Gate contains the power to unleash hidden emotions, generate deep orgasms, and trigger ejaculation when aroused enough.

Before you’re done reading about the G-Spot over the next few weeks - and doing its many juicy practices, I can assure you that you’ll be able to find and excite your beloved’s Sacred Gate. You’ll learn anatomy, massage strokes, and more pathways to G-Spot orgasm than you can imagine.

I expect that some of you have had negative experiences with G-Spot stimulation. You may have felt little, nothing, burning, or other discomfort. Let us assure you that, by following my program to awaken your Sacred Gate, this will never be the case again.

A Brief Sexual History Lesson

Though G-Spot is a modern term, undoubtedly the ancients were aware of the super sensitive parts inside yoni (vagina). They were certainly aware of one the Sacred Gate’s primary sexual functions, female ejaculation. There are references to the female expulsion of fluid with orgasm as early as Aristotle in ancient Greece. The Kama Sutra mentions in clearly. Shakespeare called it “the water of my love.”

It wasn’t until about 400 years ago that a Dutch anatomist, Regnier De Graaf, clearly defined the glands and ducts that make up the Sacred Gate. He said they were analogous to the male prostate. This started a scientific trend of referring to the G-Spot as the female prostate.

In 1880 Alexander Skene, M.D., extensively studied and illustrated the glands and ducts that comprise the female prostate. To this day, some refer to this part of a woman’s anatomy as Skene’s glands. It wasn’t until 1953 that a urologist named Samuel Berkow concluded that this tissue was erectile.

More current research beginning in the 80s concluded that the Skene’s glands are small, functional organs that produce female prostatic secretion and possess cells comparable to the male prostate.

When you feel the G-Spot, or Sacred Gate, you’re feeling these glands beneath the skin of yoni’s upper wall.

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In my line of work, I hear people complain a great deal about their sex lives. Men, like yourself, come to me and ask how they can improve their performance in the bedroom. And I always ask the same question: How is your communication?

Now I’m not asking about whether or not she’s calling out your name while you’re on top of her. What I mean is how is your communication outside the bedroom! Most of the time, I get blank looks and guys saying that they don’t understand what one has to do with the other.

And, you see, that’s the real key to the problem. As a woman, I understand how important communication is not just to the health of the relationship in general but also in how easy it is for us to “get off” in the bedroom. Sure, women can enjoy a quick romp with a stranger just like a guy can, but when we’re looking for more than a cheap thrill we need to feel a deeper connection with our partners and that’s only created through communication.

You probably won’t be surprised by this news but your lover and you don’t communicate in the same way. Different things are important to both of you and there’s nothing wrong with that, but you’ve got to know how to get beyond those differences and bridge that communication gap which is so common in relationships.

Let me give you a perfect example. Men don’t necessarily see the importance of looking at a person who is talking. In fact, if they’re with the guys, too much eye contact just feels a little uncomfortable. Women need that eye contact as a non-verbal signal that you are paying attention to what she has to say and that you feel she is important. It’s not whether or not you are paying attention to her; it’s really about making her feel like she’s your number one priority.

When women don’t feel important, they don’t feel as open and that’s bad in the bedroom. To really get to the heights of pleasure, you both need to be open to each other and feel good about your relationship. Otherwise, it’s just not going to happen.

Actually, another example of a communication problem is how one partner suggests sex. Guys are pretty forward. If they’re in the mood for love, then they just come right out and ask or start making pretty obvious overtures. That’s a real turn off for women sometimes, plus women can’t flip their arousal switch on nearly as fast as a man can. So while she may be pretty turned on a little later, being asked for sex isn’t going to make that happen. Instead, you need to take the initiative and start working up to the sex with some playful touching, a little kissing, and more fondling. When done correctly, Guys, you won’t even have to ask the question: she’ll be leading YOU into the bedroom instead of vice versa.

Communication is also a sign of closeness to a woman. The more she opens up to you the closer she feels with you. As a result, she expects you to be more forthcoming as your relationship progresses. When that doesn’t happen, she’s going to doubt your closeness and that’s going to put a real damper on your fun in the bedroom. She’s going to be a lot less tense, more open-minded, and more eager to experiment and to kick things up a notch in the passion department if she thinks the two of you have a deeper bond. That means just by going outside your comfort zone and sharing some intimate things with her – intimate emotionally, not physically – you’ll be open up the door for better sex in the bedroom.

Furthermore, open and honest communication about friends, work, interests, and feelings can eventually become steamy talk about each other’s fantasies and what you both love to feel in the bedroom. These are things we don’t just discuss with everyone so you’ve got to reach a certain level of communication before she begins revealing how she’s always wanted to have sex with her science teacher on one of the classroom desks (or maybe that’s just me).

The bottom line is that if you want to really get your woman turned on to you in the bedroom you’ve got to be more aware of her communication needs outside the bedroom. Then you can expect some real fun under the sheets.

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