Performance anxiety is commonly misinterpreted as “stage fright”, but there is a reason for it. It has been stated, that “the whole world is a stage” and we are willing or unwilling participants in it. Performing artists like musicians, singers, actors and speakers have faced this enemy during their careers and braved them one way or another.

But this enemy is very common in human relationships too and particularly ferocious when it comes to sex. Men face this enemy every time they are about to have sex and there is one reason which makes this anxiety almost unbearable: will I last long enough to satisfy my partner?

How to Make Sure You Don’t Orgasm Before She Does

1. Prolong the foreplay.

Instead of plowing away once the sex really gets going, take your time to caress your partner and explore her body with your other extremities. While the male organ seems to be the only arousal point on a man’s body, women have these sensitive areas all over the place.

Her reaction to your probing will give you a fairly good idea where they are. While she approaches ecstasy with your every successful exploration, you not only learn your partner’s secret areas, but also preserve your own stamina for the final battle.

2. Encourage her to speak up and tell you what turns her on.

Conversation is a very important part of the whole sexual experience. This time though, you want to encourage her to tell you what REALLY turns her on. Clever sexual innuendos during pre-sex time and gentle inquiries during sex not only give you vital information, but stimulate your partner’s fantasy, which makes her hornier, which makes her reach her orgasm faster! Just before you reach your own…

3. Oral sex

Spicing things up by pleasuring or “heating up” your partner with oral stimulation gives you time to breath. While orally satisfying a woman is requiring a keen ear to your partner’s needs and leads, it may be the last resort for your premature curtain call. It is not a solution to “take a break” during sex. While it may help you, you probably will have to start with your partner from square one. Switching to oral sex gives you the needed break without interrupting your partner’s pleasure cruise.

4. Know your own body.

Japanese Geisha’s are known to be able to bring a man to ecstasy without having him prematurely end the fun. If they can do that, you can too IF you know your own body.

Knowing your body’s primary arousal points can help you last longer if you avoid… for now. Another trick is to squeeze the base of your shaft right before the Big Ben strikes ten on the top and the bottom side. If you do it right, it stops you cold.

A good physical condition is also helpful in enduring the physical task of keeping it up longer; do not underestimate your muscles’ participation in your endurance quest. Ask your partner to assist you in this self-discovery and sex will never get boring.

5. An honest and open relationship.

Tell your partner about your anxiety and let her know that you want to last longer to give her more pleasure. While this is most of the time not possible when you are in bed for the first time with a new partner, once you are an item and sex gets to be a somewhat regular pastime, honesty is the way to go.

6. If it all fails, do it again!

Leonardo Da Vinci’s first painting was not the Mona Lisa and even when he was painting the masterpiece he did not get it right the first time. Multiple layers have been discovered by x-ray technology procedures, documenting that even the Master himself needed several tries to get it right.

By exploring your own limits and practicing as often as you both feel like will lead to more confidence, more pleasure, more mutual acceptance and trust, and ultimately more endurance and better sex for both of you.

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I had the most terrrrrific night! My honey and I definitely had a blast playing different kinds of lovers’ games, and of course… it made us sooo horny! And so sitting here, I was thinking of sharing what we’ve been up to last night. Ready?

Strip Chocolate

Snakes and Ladders are out! Say hello to strip chocolate instead. Now I really don’t think I have to explain further what it truly means. After all, doesn’t the game sound raunchy enough already? Indeed, it is. Sitting here makes me warm all over again.

But anyway, for the uninitiated, strip chocolate can be one of the most sensual and delicious games you can ever play. Never mind if it messes up every corner of your household. For this game, you need 2 chocolate body frosting jars, dice, a game board, 25 choco cards, and 2 paint brushes. Each of you can take turns rolling the dice, which will end in you choosing either a dare (which can be pretty boring actually), to strip (this is the best part), or paint an artsy design on any part of your partner’s body (the exposed part of course) using the chocolate body frosting. Don’t forget to say “Yummy” after!

Here’s a twist to this game: If you don’t mind being ‘sexy’ with other couples, find a pair that’s into a bit of kinkiness. Basically, choose to paint a chocolate design on someone’s body, but YOU don’t get to lick it off… somebody else has to do it. I guarantee that the sexual tension in the room will be sky high!

Truth or Dare

If strip chocolate wasn’t daring enough for you, try The Truth or Dare Chocoholics game. It’s a dessert game for adults that encourage you to express your innermost sexual desires to your partner. (What else can possibly be a great aphrodisiac than very vivid imagination?)

In this game, a spinning bottle will determine whether the person who has been chosen by it shall go for truth or settle for dare. The entire package also includes chocolate body frosting as well as soft brushes, just in case you’d like to create romantic images all over your woman’s body… and then lick it off of course.

Saucy Dining Experience

If you have played mystery games before, then this wouldn’t come as a great surprise. But Saucy Dining is more than just solving crimes. Actually, it’s totally different. It is a dinner party–themed game, where all of the recipes are made from aphrodisiacs! And apart from simply savoring the sexual desires that the food will bring, there’s another twist to this game. You and your partner really have to play with the food and each other!

Here’s an example, asparagus is a known aphrodisiac right? So… instead of just eating the asparagus off the plate, place one between hear breasts… and then eat it!

Tequila Body Shots

This is, by far, the easiest and simplest aphrodisiac game I can ever think of… yet super sexy! Alcohol isn’t really an aphrodisiac, but you know what they say, when you’re intoxicated, you can possibly do anything!

Plus, with alcohol, blood rushes through your veins so fast that you want to release all of your sexual emotions right away. And because there’s a tendency that you’ll get drunk, we both prefer to do this at the comfort of our own home. After all, all you need is a bottle of tequila, some salt, and some lime.

So here’s what you do: put some salt on your woman’s body, lick the slat off, drown a shot of tequila and follow up with a piece of lime. Easy! The trick of course is to be ‘creative’ with where you put the salt on her body. I personally love it when my man licks salt of my lips, wrist, inner arm, and between my breasts!

Just do this game with a bit of moderation ok? Tequila is also notoriously known as a ‘knockout drink’. That is, you guys can easily get drunk without you realizing it. One minute, you’re up and happy and then bang! you’re throwing up everywhere! And this, my friends, ruins every chance of you getting laid tonight.

So are you having a difficult time having fun in your sex life? Choose any one of these sexy games and their aphrodisiac props, and tell me which one gives you the most laughter, the highest passion pull, and leads to the hottest sex!

Enjoy!

Sarah

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Ok “boys”, lets get started with today´s naughty fantasies.

Important: I said FANTASIES!

It´s not legal to have sex outdoors in most countries, so let´s just fantasize together darling.

Here are some of my hottest Outdoor Sex Fantasies:

1. Get a blow up pool and enjoy a moment together in your backyard;

2. Go camping with close friends, and get a sleeping bag for 2 (for hot sex while your friends are sleeping);

3. Try having sex in a hammock;

4. Go to the closest beach, and try a “salt water” sex experience;

5. Rent a kayak (or similar), go far away from the beach and have hot sex;

6. Try something on in a store together, and enjoy wild sex in the dressing room;

7. Take your woman to a restaurant (outdoors) and tell her to give you a blow job (under the table cloth);

8. Invite your closest friends to a picnic, and have sex in the car while they´re getting the BBQ ready!

Now it´s YOUR turn.

Please take a moment to write your fantasies in the “Leave a Comment” section!

Kisses!

Sarah

Hi all!

I´m so excited!

It´s 2008… a year that will be LIFE-CHANGING for you.

How do I know?

I “just know”!

But remember, 2008 WILL be a life-changing year ONLY if you make the right DECISIONS.

In order to change, you need to decide first…

So here´s my advice:

1. Make a list of all the BIG changes you want to make in your life (the BIG ones!);

2. Decide which BIG decisions you have to make in order to achieve them;

3. Take action!

Please PROMISE ME that 2008 will be a LIFE-CHANGING year (it´s up to you!)

I want to wish you a VERY happy (and VERY sensual) new year!

Love and kisses!

Sarah Torbay

Let´s be honest: The key to seduction is to understand where feelings of lust, desire, and attraction originate in the woman’s brain.

You see, our brain has evolved over millions of years, through a series of stages each one added upon the last.

The first, most primal part of our brain is the brain stem, which is the oldest and smallest region in the human brain. Our brain stem controls various processes such as breathing, our heartbeat, and the flight or fight response.

The second part of our brain, wrapped around the basic brain stem and having evolved later, is the limbic brain. The limbic brain is responsible for women’s core emotional experiences including lust, desire, and attraction. Lacking language, the limbic brain is both impulsive and instinctual. It’s sometimes called the pleasure center because sexual stimuli that we experience pass directly to it.

Later, over millions of years, layers of more sophisticated reasoning have been added on top of the limbic brain. The newest part of our brain, the neo-cortex, is considered the rational brain that provides logic and thought, allowing for speaking, planning and critical judgment.

To understand you will need to learn how to directly stimulate the limbic brain of a woman and bypass her neo-cortex, which rationalizes reasons to hesitate or shut down sexual urges or judge you based on your looks or social status in an effort to not appear like a “slut.”

In other words, by dealing exclusively with a woman’s limbic brain, you’re directly communicating to where her feelings of lust and mating begin rather than communicating in a way that triggers resistance and critical judgment in her.

That’s why an unattractive or financially limited man can still create attraction in women by sexually stimulating their limbic brain through Nonverbal Sexual Cuing.

In summary you will need to learn:

- How to use physical intrusion of intimate space to electrify sexual chemistry between you and your woman.

- How to play your voice like a musical instrument to create sexual rapport through vibrant resonance, sexy tempo, and smooth tonality to make women fall in love with your voice as soon as you start talking to her.

- The difference between the smile “look” and the smile “act” for creating sexual rapport and connection in an intimate encounter and from across a room.

- The three secrets of body language to make your woman instantly comfortable around you.

- How to initiate physical contact to create sexual connection and rapport.

- How to eliminate the negative repulsion factor that women are biologically 100 times more sensitive to than men, and that most guys are giving off without even knowing it.

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Foreplay is not something to be rushed. In fact, the longer the suspense, the tighter the tension, the hotter the passion!

You see, if you are trying to put foreplay back into your lives and then rush through it, then you are undermining its importance. Instead, plan for a night of passion you and your partner won’t forget.

Start the day right. Start foreplay the minute your partner wakes up. For women, try leaving erotica (a Kama Sutra-type book always works!) by the bedside or ‘accidentally’ leave a pair of black (or red) thongs on the bed. Titillate his imagination!

For men, leave a dirty magazine under the pillow or on the bed. The ‘accidentally leaving your underwear’ thing doesn’t work for men as successfully as for women though. Instead, wake up with, er… an erection and be sure your partner sees it or ‘accidentally’ comes into contact with it.

I guarantee your partner will wake up with thoughts of sex in the air! (There you go; foreplay has begun!)

Now continue this ‘teasing’. For example, you can let your robe fall off after the shower or go out of the shower completely naked (say you forgot to bring a towel or clothes or something…). Don’t be shy to make ‘poses’ while naked! Bend over, stretch, or even rub yourself lightly. Do this innocently but be sure your partner sees it!

Be unreachable but don’t be mean. At this point, your partner’s thoughts may already be about sex, don’t give in! Play hard to get. However, don’t be mean. Some people tease to the point where his/her partner is so hot already that if you don’t give in, they get frustrated! Worse, they see it as rebuke. You don’t want that! You should be able to tease ‘to a point of return’.

The ‘Excuse Me’ Tip!

Here’s a tip from one of my readers. Sometimes, when she wakes up in the morning, she teases her man by trying to get out of bed on HIS side. So she says “excuse me” and then she just HAS to get on top of him right? And while there, a little ‘dry rubbing’ goes on and soon enough, he gets hot. She then gives him a wet kiss, gets up and says “See you tonight honey…” coyly.

(It works for men also!)

Maintain the sexual tension. Now that you’ve started foreplay, maintain the tension. Most people make the mistake of thinking that because their partners were ‘hot’ this morning, they will be in exactly the same state that night. Wrong!

So how do you keep your partner longing for you during the day? Try these tricks.

• Send an x-rated email or link to an x-rated site and say “Look at what [name of friend or colleague] sent me today!”
• Send an email or SMS saying “Honey, [name of porn film] is in at the store/video rent house today. Shall I get it?”
• Send a picture SMS of yourself with… barely anything on.

Set the stage appropriately. The stage can be a hotel room or simply at home. You MUST take the personality traits of your partner here.

If he/she is the romantic type, then spread rose petals on the floor and on the bed, chill the champagne, and light 100 scented candles! However, here’s the real-life truth: many people are not like this. Some think this is ‘over the top’ or ‘too corny’. So don’t try to recreate a romantic movie scene here if it doesn’t suit you or your partner.

If he/she is more the ‘practical’ type, then hold off on the scattered flower petals and simply go for a fresh bouquet of red roses and put them in a vase in the living room and another in the bedroom. Instead of champagne, go for your partner’s favorite wine or hard-to-get, imported beer! Instead of 100 scented candles, go for few lighted ones placed strategically in your home. Be subtle but make the changes stand out nonetheless.

Practical Tips!

Please don’t try and create a romantic setting if you have not taken care of a few basic things such as getting rid of the kids and doing some basic room cleaning. I tell you, it ruins the mood!

Seriously, if you have kids, it really pays to have them stay at grandma’s for the night. I guarantee you’ll be amazed at how uninhibited and abandoned your partner will be in bed!

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Hi all!

You have NO IDEA how important “Thanksgiving Day” is to me…

Do you know why?

For 1 reason ONLY:

Because I can thank YOU (yes YOU) for letting me share tips and techniques to improve your SEX life.

(If you don´t celebrate Thanksgiving Day in your country, I STILL want to say THANKS!)

I want to say THANK YOU for:

- Giving a meaning to my life;
- Letting me be part of your MOST intimate moments;
- Allowing me to share with you my experience and advice;

And most important:

- For letting me help you IMPROVE your SEX life every day!

Thanks… Thanks so much!

And finally, please let me give you a recommendation today.

Get everything ready for a sensual moment with your partner tonight. Have the most ROMANTIC and WILD sex (yes, both at the same time) with her.

And after you BOTH enjoy a mind-blowing orgasm… grab your partner´s hands and say:

“Thank you for being part of my life… Happy Thanksgiving Day”!

Please promise that you will do it…

Have a VERY SENSUAL Thanksgiving Day!

Your friend,

Sarah

Men who truly amaze their partners in bed know a little secret: great sex doesn’t start in the bedroom. If you want to turn things up in the bedroom, then you need to set the stage in advance. And that means doing a little advance planning and putting together an incredible experience she’s not going to forget.

First, you’ve got to be alone. Your partner may have sex in your bedroom with the door closed even when the kids are asleep in the next room but she’s not truly going to get into the moment when there’s a chance of waking them up or having them walk in. So your first job is to schedule some alone time with her. And that doesn’t just mean you’ve got to leave the kids somewhere else – that also means friends, parents, co-workers, everybody who could interfere in what you’ve got planned have to be out of the picture. If you’re thinking it’s impossible, just imagine how amazing the night is going to be with just the two of you alone enjoying each other with more abandon than you’ve ever imagined. I’m guessing you’ll find the motivation you need.

Second, create a romantic interlude for her. Women aren’t only seduced through their bodies. If you want to truly make all of her body come alive to your touch, then you have to start by turning her on mentally and that’s going to require a little romance.

Let’s look at two scenarios which could make the bedroom a much more fun place for the two of you tonight.

Idea #1

Start off by preparing a fabulous meal for her while she’s gone at work. If you’re not the world’s greatest cook, don’t worry. Cook whatever you know how to make – it’s not the meal itself but the idea of the meal that will work magic. Now when she’s on her way home, turn off all the lights and instead light a trail of candles which will lead her into the dining room. Have the table set with more candles. You can serve white or champagne but avoid any hard liquor because alcohol make release your inhabitations but it also dampens the performance for both partners and that’s definitely not how you want the evening to end.

Before you serve a delicious dessert, sneak up stairs and draw her a warm bubble bath. Surround the tub with lighted candles and lower the lights. Once she’s finished eating, lead her up the stairs and slowly undress her for the bath. Then give her a bath. Move slowly over her body, paying particular attention to all of her erogenous zones. Don’t concentrate too much on her breasts at first. Wait until she’s clearly getting exciting before you suds them or make your way between her thighs.

After the bath, towel her dry and start the foreplay. By now, she’s both mentally and physically prepared to enjoy a full evening of enjoying your body as much as you were enjoying hers.

Idea #2

If your partner is a little more adventurous, plan a romantic interlude that won’t end in the bedroom but somewhere even more erotic. Make reservations at her favorite restaurant and arrange to take her there as a surprise. Over dinner, slip away to the “bathroom” then call her cell phone. When she answers, use your deepest, sexiest voice to outline all of the ways you want to pleasure her for the evening. Be explicit. Women can be very easily stimulated this way because we have incredibly vivid imaginations, especially of the men we’re sleeping with. Don’t think she has spent long hours picturing the two of you in some pretty hot situations before.

After dinner, drive to somewhere secluded. Have a CD playing that sets the mood – you can either choose romantic ballads or something a little sexier depending on what helps turn her on the most. Now bring out your secret weapon: a battery-powered vibrator. Lean her seat back and slide the vibrator inside of her. All the while, whisper in her ear about what you’ve still got in store for her. Pretty soon, she’ll be practically (and maybe literally) begging you to come inside of her.

And that’s the moment you do exactly what she asks. If you can’t get comfortable in the car, get a room at the closest motel you can find and spend the rest of the night finding out just how many orgasms you’re both capable of having.

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