Performance anxiety is commonly misinterpreted as “stage fright”, but there is a reason for it. It has been stated, that “the whole world is a stage” and we are willing or unwilling participants in it. Performing artists like musicians, singers, actors and speakers have faced this enemy during their careers and braved them one way or another.

But this enemy is very common in human relationships too and particularly ferocious when it comes to sex. Men face this enemy every time they are about to have sex and there is one reason which makes this anxiety almost unbearable: will I last long enough to satisfy my partner?

How to Make Sure You Don’t Orgasm Before She Does

1. Prolong the foreplay.

Instead of plowing away once the sex really gets going, take your time to caress your partner and explore her body with your other extremities. While the male organ seems to be the only arousal point on a man’s body, women have these sensitive areas all over the place.

Her reaction to your probing will give you a fairly good idea where they are. While she approaches ecstasy with your every successful exploration, you not only learn your partner’s secret areas, but also preserve your own stamina for the final battle.

2. Encourage her to speak up and tell you what turns her on.

Conversation is a very important part of the whole sexual experience. This time though, you want to encourage her to tell you what REALLY turns her on. Clever sexual innuendos during pre-sex time and gentle inquiries during sex not only give you vital information, but stimulate your partner’s fantasy, which makes her hornier, which makes her reach her orgasm faster! Just before you reach your own…

3. Oral sex

Spicing things up by pleasuring or “heating up” your partner with oral stimulation gives you time to breath. While orally satisfying a woman is requiring a keen ear to your partner’s needs and leads, it may be the last resort for your premature curtain call. It is not a solution to “take a break” during sex. While it may help you, you probably will have to start with your partner from square one. Switching to oral sex gives you the needed break without interrupting your partner’s pleasure cruise.

4. Know your own body.

Japanese Geisha’s are known to be able to bring a man to ecstasy without having him prematurely end the fun. If they can do that, you can too IF you know your own body.

Knowing your body’s primary arousal points can help you last longer if you avoid… for now. Another trick is to squeeze the base of your shaft right before the Big Ben strikes ten on the top and the bottom side. If you do it right, it stops you cold.

A good physical condition is also helpful in enduring the physical task of keeping it up longer; do not underestimate your muscles’ participation in your endurance quest. Ask your partner to assist you in this self-discovery and sex will never get boring.

5. An honest and open relationship.

Tell your partner about your anxiety and let her know that you want to last longer to give her more pleasure. While this is most of the time not possible when you are in bed for the first time with a new partner, once you are an item and sex gets to be a somewhat regular pastime, honesty is the way to go.

6. If it all fails, do it again!

Leonardo Da Vinci’s first painting was not the Mona Lisa and even when he was painting the masterpiece he did not get it right the first time. Multiple layers have been discovered by x-ray technology procedures, documenting that even the Master himself needed several tries to get it right.

By exploring your own limits and practicing as often as you both feel like will lead to more confidence, more pleasure, more mutual acceptance and trust, and ultimately more endurance and better sex for both of you.

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If it is politically correct to say diamonds are a woman’s best friend, would it be right to say that aphrodisiacs are a man’s best friend?

One of the biggest challenges for guys when it comes to sex is how to ensure that his woman is also in the mood for it. What usually happens is this: you want sex and she, for some reason, doesn’t. However, instead of getting sexually frustrated - or worse, try to force her! - why not enlist the help of a few aphrodisiacs?

No need to go exotic and spend a gargantuan amount of money. Try these ‘natural’ aphrodisiacs to set her in the right mood without going through too much hassle.

Balut

Balut, the popular delicacy of most Filipinos, is actually a fertilized duck that has a developed embryo inside. The egg is boiled and is enjoyed with a pinch of salt and a couple of drops of vinegar. And because a lot of men testify to its astonishing effects, plus its affordability compared to other forms of aphrodisiacs, the balut has become a popular street food in Asian countries. However, thanks to the wonders of exports, you can probably find balut in any Asian grocery store near you.

If you don’t want to try this now, then don’t forget about it when you and your woman are on a trip in Asia. It’s worth a try!

Ginseng

Ginseng is a genus of 11 species of perennial plants with fleshy roots. They grow in China, Asia, Korea and Siberia. Normally, ginseng is used as nourishing stimulants and as treatment of Type II Diabetes. It’s also widely used in vitamins and food supplements for men. But since its discovery, only lately has its most significant use been adopted. That is, it’s undoubted role in men’s sexual prowess. In fact, according to a 2002 study, both Asian and American forms of ginseng markedly increased libido levels of animals, thus improving their sexual performance.

If your woman drinks a lot of tea already, then switching to one that is ginger-flavored is not a bad idea. A few dishes cooked with a lot of ginger is also nice. Just don’t serve a plateful of raw ginger! I assure you, any ‘hotness’ from this will not lead to sex!

Honey

Honey is a sweet viscous liquid that can actually bring sex performance to higher levels and make your “honey” beg you for more. Coming from the nectar of flowers, honey is a mixture mainly of sugars and other compounds like fructose and glucose. The nitric oxide in it is also known to open up blood vessels and stimulate erection. This may sound like an aphrodisiac for you rather than for her… but an obviously erect penis works wonders for us women as well!

Besides, honey can be ‘consumed’ in many ways right? So why not spread a bit of honey on your ‘honey’? Lick away! Lick away! Lick away!

Oats

Who says oats are only for dieters? Oats work as well in letting out the real man in you. Among the sources of aphrodisiacs, this is the most affordable one. In recent studies, the power of oats has been seen to significantly race the level of testosterone in men. Think it’s impossible? Try it!

Oysters

La Trelle Spencer in White Chicks said that oysters are an aphrodisiac. And yes it’s true! It’s been found that oysters are rich in certain amino acids that notably increase the levels of sex hormones. You may also want to add some spice to your oysters as spice can lead to increased heart rate and sometimes even sweating. These are responses similar to the ones you feel when you’re ‘getting it on’. So once you smell your honey cooking up some grilled oysters, you know what’s going to happen next!

Peanut Butter

Peanut butter lovers certainly will love to read this. This lovely snack can actually increase the desire for sex! It is rich in Vitamin B1 and Vitamin E, which is also called the “sexuality vitamin”.

And here’s a naughty tip you can try! Make sure your woman is sitting somewhere, say on the sofa, dinner chair, whatever! Then go ala Elvis and get a banana. Half-peel this and smear the top with peanut butter. No, position the half-peeled banana directly in front of your penis (and facing her face!). Approach your woman and, WITHOUT LAUGHING, ask her to taste your banana. If she doesn’t get horny from this, I don’t know what will!

Indeed, nature has everything to offer. What more could you ask for? Delicious aphrodisiac foods that are very affordable. All you have to do is learn these tricks and remember that hot sex doesn’t depend on how much aphrodisiac you eat but in the love that you put in it.

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You can jazz things up in the bedroom (or anywhere else for that matter) by throwing in some toys and accessories.

Some couples shy away form using sex toys in their intimate lives because they believe such items are not “normal” for use with couples or are too perverse for their relationships. The truth is that more couples than you might imagine make the items we describe in the following pages a part of their intimate fun.

Other couples may be concerned about purchasing these items. Almost every city, even fairly small ones, have stores specializing in erotic merchandise like the ones listed below. Most cities have multiple stores. Many of these stores are just as clean and inviting as any other retail outlet; others cater to a lower-quality crowd and are found mainly in dilapidated neighborhoods (these you might want to avoid). Of course, if you’re nervous about going to the stores – this is completely common at first – you can purchase all of the items from online shops from the convenience and privacy of your home.

With that said, let’s take a look at one of the hottest sex toys and how it can enhance your sex lives.

Sex Toy/Accessory: Dildo

Average Price Range: $20 to $100+

Description:

Dildos are elongated pieces of material – usually latex, plastic, glass, or acrylic – that are molded into shapes similar to a penis. Dildos come in a wide range of shapes and sizes. Some are molded to closely resemble the look and feel of a penis. Others are made more for stimulating certain parts of the body, particularly the clitoris.

Besides the standard dildos, you can also purchase double-ended dildos and anal dildos which we’ll talk about a little later.

How to Use It:

Dildos can be used in a variety of ways. The most common way is to insert it into the woman’s vagina, possibly while using the penis to penetrate her anus (some dildos are made for this specific reason), while she is masturbating the man, or while he is helping her get ready for the big event with the real thing. She can also use it to masturbate while her partner watches.

Additionally, there are dildos which are specifically designed for anal penetration. These dildos are more narrow and are not as long so they fit more comfortably into the anus than a penis might and can provide a more relaxed, safer way to experience anal intercourse.

Another option are double-sided meaning both ends are meant to resemble a penis. Some of these dildos can be used with a partner – both of you can take it for a ride simultaneously. Other double-ended toys are meant to provide double pleasure to the woman: one end is meant for her vagina, the other is meant for her anus.

Why to Use It:

The main reason to play with a dildo is that it can help bring women to a climax more quickly and more consistently. While a penis may not be able to hit the right spot, dildos are designed based on a woman’s pelvic anatomy so they can apply pressure to the clitoris and help her reach an orgasm.

Another reason is that having a dildo in the bed is almost like adding a third person to the fun. You have an extra penis to play around with and in can go almost anywhere. Even the man might find it kind of fun to have a dildo gently placed in his anus – the pressure on the prostrate feels amazing!

It’s also fun to watch your partner pleasure him or herself with or without our help. A dildo makes it easy for a woman to masturbate and to “get off” and some dildos can even help men reach their pleasure zones more easily leading to a dynamic orgasm for both of you.

Purchasing Suggestions:

If you’re interested in vaginal dildos, your best choice are the ones made of glass. These are not only practical but many of them are beautiful, too. Besides the aesthetics, glass is easier to keep sanitized than plastic or many other materials. You can simply slide it into your dishwasher after you’ve finished sliding inside each other then let the heat do the trick. Glass can also withstand changes in temperature that means you can intensify your fun with a cold or a warm dildo. Imagine how penetrating your partner with a cold glass dildo is going to feel on one of those hot, muggy days. She’ll get chills in more ways than one! Keep in mind though that all that fun comes with a price – glass dildos are more expensive than other materials in general.

For other types of dildos, just make sure that you choose a toy designed for what you want to use it for. Don’t try to use a traditional dildo for anal penetration – your partner will definitely NOT appreciate it since most standard dildos are even larger and wider than a penis.

Safety Tip:

Never insert a dildo into another area of the body or into another person without thoroughly cleaning it first. You can pass on infections and diseases if you don’t take precautions. Most erotic merchandise stores do sell special cleaners for sex toys. Otherwise antibacterial soap and hot water are your best choices.

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Great Sex Tips to Spice Up Your Relationship

They say that marriage is bliss—for the first year or so. After that, the boiling passion of most newlyweds cools down into a simmer. This is not to say that the couple is too used to each other, or is losing interest. It is simply the result of life taking over, schedules being set and met, and routines falling into place. While some couples are happy with their lives during this time, others feel that the newlywed phase ended too soon.

One part of this slowing down for newlyweds and couples is that busy schedules do not allow for the blissful times of the honeymoon days. Making time for intimacy can be difficult, even in the best of situations. Sometimes, a little bit of extra sex is all you need to feel like that newlywed couple once more. For those couples that want to feel like newlyweds again, young and old, here are some sex tips to spice up your marriage.

1. Go buy a sex tips book. This may seem like an odd tip for this piece, but it is the best advice to give. Sex tips books are very explicit and will give you and your spouse a chance to explore what you both like in (or out) of the bedroom.

2. Rent or buy some soft pornography. Sex tips books are great, but sometimes you learn better from seeing than reading. When you and your spouse watch the movies, look at the positions and make sure that you mention any that you might like to try.

3. Take time for each other whenever possible. Get the idea out of your head that sex must happen at night in the bedroom. The best sex tip you will ever get is this—if you get the opportunity to be intimate with your partner, take it!

4. Make a date. Who says you can’t date after marriage? If you feel like your marriage is getting horribly dull, make a date with your spouse. Go out to dinner and a movie, hit the club, or go bowling. By the time you get home, you will feel like you did when you first got married. Since you are both going to be relaxed and in the mood for some fun, use this time to try out some sex tips out of that book mentioned earlier, or pop in a movie.

5. One of the best sex tips for lonely housewives of overworked husbands is to do something unexpected to gain their attention. Sometimes working hard gets in the way, and we don’t see that we are leaving our spouse out of our lives. Put a risqué picture or sexy note in his briefcase or wallet. You will be sure to gain his attention and affections by the time he comes home to a nice candle light dinner for two.

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